Why You Should Only Work With Professionals, Pt 2

Read part 1 here.

When I had less than 5,000 followers I would always imagine what it would be like having 50,000 followers. 50,000 people who admire your work, wow! How does their phone not explode with all the notifications? I've always dreamt of something bigger—I still do. Now I'm sitting at over 160,000 followers and I seem to be more unhappy than ever before. I had this expectation that a lot of followers equaled success equaled happiness but that's not usually the truth. People struggle to even gain success after having a lot of followers let alone being happy.

The truth is I have 160,000 people who follow me to see my work and that's it. Some of them don't like me, some of them want to call me out on anything I do wrong and some of them even sabotage my relationships with people and companies (which is something I was never accused of. Have you ever played that game Telephone where the further along something gets passed, the further away from the truth it gets?) People love to hate me. I make it so easy for them. I happily quit my job, dropped out of school and photograph some of the most beautiful women in the world. What's not to hate? I honestly don't want to sound like I'm bragging but no one is going to admit that they're jealous. Boyfriends don't like me, I've lost real life friends because I unfollow people and I even received an incredible amount of hate because I wanted to help new photographers. People love to hate me.

I jokingly told one of my friends that I'm playing the photography game on hardcore mode. That statement is not too far from the truth. 

Now to recap, I photographed Rebecca three times. At no point did she express discomfort or say no. Two of those shoots I was accompanied with a friend and a girl I was seeing. They also remember everything differently than her. Instead of Rebecca ever confronting me about it, she took to the internet to let it all out a year and a half after our last shoot. It has damaged my reputation tremendously. Here are some of the things people were saying about her blog post:rebecca jurgensrebecca jurgensrebecca jurgensrebecca jurgensrebecca jurgensrebecca jurgensrebecca jurgensrebecca jurgensrebecca jurgensrebecca jurgensrebecca jurgensrebecca jurgensrebecca jurgensrebecca jurgens

A few days after her post I couldn't bring myself to log online to read all the horrible things people were saying about me so I stopped looking and I stopped screenshotting. I felt a complete sense of helplessness and guilt that maybe I did do all of these things and I am a horrible, horrible person. But the following are screenshots are conversations between her and I at points in between our three shoots that she neglected to show any of you:

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Now put yourself in her shoes. Imagine that you went to a shoot with a stranger and he "forced" you to get naked. Would you say some of the things Rebecca said to your perpetrator? Would you want to go on a road trip with them or get sad when they can't make it to your party? Would you ever say "Did you like any of the nudy ones?" to him? The only answer is no. No, you wouldn't. You'd distance yourself, file a police report or confront him. Not shoot two more times with him. Even rats are smart enough to not eat cheese from a trap if they witness another rat killed by it. Rebecca fails to answer any of the questions that go against her blog post and gets called out for deleting comments.

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I don't know about you but I watch a lot of Netflix. I've seen a lot of Law & Order: SVU, specifically. One of the methods attorneys use to weaken the strength of an unfavorable testimony is to cross-exam the witness. For those of you who don't practice law or watch SVU, it's basically ad hominem. Ad hominem is a fallacy in which an argument is rebutted by attacking the character, motive, or other attribute of the person making the argument. Here are some true examples:

  1. Rebecca Jurgens has had problems with multiple male photographers. A photographer took photos of their mutual friend. The model loved the photos and had a good time. Rebecca thought it would be nice to intervene and "speak on her behalf" and to force him to apologize (for literally nothing) and delete his Instagram. Rebecca wasn't even at the shoot. 
  2. Rebecca uses emotionally driven subjects such as transphobia, extreme feminism and cultural appropriation to antagonize and provoke people. Here are her most recent Reddit posts. Keep in mind she goes back and deletes her comments that don't get enough of her support. Here she is calling someone a racist because they used a headdress in a photo.
  3. Rebecca physically assaulted her then best friend over a gram of weed. Her "apology" the next day consisted of "you probably shouldn't report it because we were both high and I don't want you to get in trouble." Now Rebecca is going around town telling everyone she beat her up. 

I can keep showing some people fact after fact after fact that go against her accusations but people will still support her. Once someone has an idea planted in their head it's difficult to get them to change their mind. That's just human nature. She hides behind the feminism flag and claims this is an attack on women and an abuse of power. It is not. This is all about lying, deception and not taking responsibility for your actions. If after all of this you still don’t believe me, then I’m sorry for letting you down. But I will never, ever apologize for something I did not do.

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 Further Reading

A post I made asking for legal advice because an agent threatened to sue me. Fun fact: She shows up and comments.

My conversation with said agent. Rebecca tipped her off about me and she ended up emailing all the surrounding agencies to blacklist me.

Awesome people being awesome.

 

 

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  • I am so sorry that this has happened to you. You’re creativity, skill, passion & hard work mean more than any of those peoples opinions. I know how hard it can Be to feel good about yourself and what you’re doing when other people say shit like this, but let that hate be your biggest motivation. YOU know who you are and what you’ve done, and their opinions are nothing more than simple words. Keep your head up and in the game. Never let anyone try and take you down, you are going places. Your work is beautiful. I see so much passion and emotion in your pictures. I see beautiful women opening themselves up, loving their own bodies & expressing themselves. I can feel your creativity in each and every photo, don’t loose that. Don’t let anyone take away your talent. Walk with your head high friend, good things will always come your way.

    Cameo on
  • Reading this article made me like you even more. I had no idea people act this way towards artists. I’m at a loss for words. People are assholes. Keep doing you Bleeblu! Love your work. It’s not just “nude” photography. It’s art. There are stories within your images and thats what I really like about your art. Don’t understand how you do it but I hope that my storytelling is as good as yours someday! Thanks for pushing me to be a better photographer. I’ve got a long way to go! – @blackbubbless

    Jemiel Lowery on
  • Good for you for putting all this together. Some people want to hate others for who knows what reason. I love your work. Keep it up ✌

    paul d clarke on
  • Didn’t even know this happened to you. Funny to see how people just blindly follow her statement and opinions, happens to often. I’ve been following you for a while now and seen some video content as well and from that you can see you have the respect and professionalism needed for this, if the model say no it ends there simple. And you photographing mainly young (or young looking) girls can just be your style, maybe you’re just in to that and that’s fine. And maybe not all of your pictures have a creative idea or story behind them but put them all together and you can write “the beautiful women of earth” under it and there’s your story. Some people are just crazy, and the biggest proof Rebecca’s story doesn’t add up is the simple fact that I haven’t found any other girl speaking up. If even 25% of the girls you photographed would speak up you would not be posting on IG right now or even be allowed a camera in your hands. I also read her story but the actual conversations could be to from anyone since she blurred her own name, kinda dumb. I could keep going for a long time but I don’t want too so, peace out!

    Tim on

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